tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post114580620283792377..comments2023-03-29T08:15:49.360-06:00Comments on Ella Ever After: Patty and the Pecan PiesEllahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-19079595571715143962016-12-15T02:46:36.765-07:002016-12-15T02:46:36.765-07:00Ella it must be so hard to keep calm and be nice t...Ella it must be so hard to keep calm and be nice to Patti, she sounds horrid. Sending positive vibes your way to keep your strength up with her.<br /><br />Hugs Lindy xxLindy Thomashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13859977416089280383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-40865023968980797552016-12-14T21:38:31.589-07:002016-12-14T21:38:31.589-07:00Some people never change, intervention or not, and...Some people never change, intervention or not, and with this one I really wonder if it's even possible. Good for you for being the considerate, caring sister in law, the way of grace is always best. Laurelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07118654239769511815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-17336169857920414982016-12-14T12:54:35.632-07:002016-12-14T12:54:35.632-07:00Ella, sorry, I'm late again! Patty is a ghastl...Ella, sorry, I'm late again! Patty is a ghastly woman and I really admire you for continuing to put up with her. I'm glad your united front meant you had a calm Thanksgiving. I bet your pecan pie tasted all the better the next day, knowing you'd kept your cool with her.<br />Sympathy from across the Pond,<br />Rosie xxRosie Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00765687509366453029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-25881873421192640822016-12-14T05:31:24.500-07:002016-12-14T05:31:24.500-07:00I love when you say, "Good gravy" Cat! ...I love when you say, "Good gravy" Cat! I always smile. I have to agree with you. Confronting her has never helped. She always blames me. Yep, sometimes I dream of what I would like to say to Patty, but it would not make the situation any better. My temper is never pretty. When it gets really bad, I just get up and leave. Sam will come find me for hugs, not spankings. He always tells me I am the stronger person.<br /><br />So glad you made this comment, Cat. It means a lot.<br />EllaEllahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-2429724717997080982016-12-14T05:24:46.362-07:002016-12-14T05:24:46.362-07:00Sometimes I think God gave me Patty as a test. If...Sometimes I think God gave me Patty as a test. If I can be kind to her, then I know I am a good person. In the moment, though, it is never easy.<br /><br />Hugs From EllaEllahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-82496732031918252882016-12-14T05:23:09.754-07:002016-12-14T05:23:09.754-07:00PK, my Sam is the patient one. He really thinks t...PK, my Sam is the patient one. He really thinks that there is some mental problems that make Patty so difficult. He helps me to do the right thing.<br /><br />Love,<br />EllaEllahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-86922920665267601732016-12-14T05:20:37.793-07:002016-12-14T05:20:37.793-07:00Thanks for your vote of confidence, Leigh. I will...Thanks for your vote of confidence, Leigh. I will keep you all posted on how angelic I am over Christmas.<br /><br />EllaEllahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-21519142040020313992016-12-14T05:19:03.625-07:002016-12-14T05:19:03.625-07:00Ha! Oh, Ronnie, Sam would die laughing if he knew...Ha! Oh, Ronnie, Sam would die laughing if he knew anyone called me a "Saint." He is happy if I don't use the "F" word when she finally leaves.<br /><br />Ella With a Very Crooked HaloEllahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-11238636627157153502016-12-14T05:16:16.061-07:002016-12-14T05:16:16.061-07:00She is such an unhappy person, Jan. And when I am...She is such an unhappy person, Jan. And when I am not around her, I feel sorry for her. She is my true test of being able to carry a Christian attitude with me through anything.<br /><br />Hugs Across the Pond,<br />EllaEllahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-38288222152083369932016-12-14T05:14:15.972-07:002016-12-14T05:14:15.972-07:00You are right, Mere. You can't choose your fa...You are right, Mere. You can't choose your family. I am not sure my boys would relish the thought of an intervention for Aunt Patty. They usually just laugh when she gets rolling. They really do help me with their humor many times. They think it is hilarious to come up with a Patty-ism just to make me laugh. Often they will whisper something in my ear that lightens the situation for me.<br /><br />Ella Toughs It OutEllahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-59163432219504747052016-12-14T05:07:00.324-07:002016-12-14T05:07:00.324-07:00You always make me smile, Terps. You have such a ...You always make me smile, Terps. You have such a gentle way about you. Of course, I will share a recipe with you. The one I use is from a very old Southern ladies church cook book.<br /><br />Hugs From EllaEllahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-55722538847326849552016-12-14T05:04:49.156-07:002016-12-14T05:04:49.156-07:00Thanks, Baker. She could win a prize. Some days ...Thanks, Baker. She could win a prize. Some days I would be happy if she would just say please and thank you.<br /><br />EllaEllahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-12734219674246324402016-12-14T05:03:34.846-07:002016-12-14T05:03:34.846-07:00Thanks, Sunny. Sam and I tried this after last Ne...Thanks, Sunny. Sam and I tried this after last New Year's Eve when she yelled at me in the dining room of her retirement facility. I was mortified, and my temper was just short of blowing a fuse in front of dozens of people. It helped for a few weeks, and then it was back to snide remarks. <br /><br />Sam is such a good and patient man, and I know he would never throw her out of the family. The biggest help is when he pulls out his HOH tone of voice with her. We are 11 years younger than Patty, so it is quite entertaining for me to watch her shut up when her little brother cuts her off.<br /><br />Ella Ellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-9803600683484137062016-12-13T20:59:06.102-07:002016-12-13T20:59:06.102-07:00Good gravy, Ella...that is a painful relationship....Good gravy, Ella...that is a painful relationship. I really don't think a family Internationale would do any good. Have a feeling that everything you pointed out regarding her behavior would someone be turned around and blamed on you and/or others. Have know several people like this...think your Sam is handling it in the best way possible. Would it be nice to let her know what you think of her rude and childish behavior...oh yes! But would it change anything with her...not really. Unless you count making things worse plus being on the receiving end of an extremely painful barn burner. Sending positive energy for you during the Christmas holiday gatherings.<br /><br />Hugs and blessings...CatCathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14266606975978680188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-62195595983224333442016-12-13T16:25:03.211-07:002016-12-13T16:25:03.211-07:00Hi Ella, gosh, you and Sam both really have the pa...Hi Ella, gosh, you and Sam both really have the patience of a saint. There is nothing worse than having to deal with difficult family members. I admire how you continue to contact and include Patty in family occasions. <br /><br />I'm so glad that Sam knows how to help you in dealing with her and that Thanksgiving turned out wonderful. Hope you and Sam enjoyed the homemade pecan pie too :)<br /><br />Hugs <br />Roz Rozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-86150150446655946292016-12-13T14:18:33.152-07:002016-12-13T14:18:33.152-07:00I can't complain too much against any of my 3...I can't complain too much against any of my 3 sisters-in-law. They weren't nice to LJ when he announced his marriage - but they aren't actively ugly about anything. I'm just glad you have Sam to keep you calm when she gets you riled. PK Coreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12709050887630815873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-70858002780553090692016-12-13T11:42:14.403-07:002016-12-13T11:42:14.403-07:00I'm sorry you have a difficult sister in law �...I'm sorry you have a difficult sister in law 🙁 Why does that usually seem to be the case? I have 3 sister in laws... Depending on the day they each can be super difficult. I think you responded really well. I am still learning to have patience with mine🙈 But they make my hubby more nuts than me... So currently, my bottom is safe... Unless I take the stress out on him that is🤔😁Leighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16158568641562477236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-50650909150541783562016-12-13T09:10:46.633-07:002016-12-13T09:10:46.633-07:00You certainly have the patience of a Saint Ella. I...You certainly have the patience of a Saint Ella. I would have said something to her a long time ago.<br /><br />Love,<br />Ronnie<br />xxronniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16402712634206383021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-41985655402438901702016-12-13T08:48:45.312-07:002016-12-13T08:48:45.312-07:00Hi Ella, what a shame she is so awful. She must be...Hi Ella, what a shame she is so awful. She must be so unhappy to be so horrid. How hard to be nice to her. I suppose you have to plod on and keep trying :(.<br />much sympathy, love Jan, xxan English Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00696976759167193635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-46618276341187274072016-12-13T08:43:21.980-07:002016-12-13T08:43:21.980-07:00Ella,
Every family has a person that just doesn...Ella,<br />Every family has a person that just doesn't fit well. You are doing a great job of watching your attitude and keeping things in check. However, I do like The suggestion of an intervention. Her history speaks for itself.It would be a tough, but loving thing to do.<br />MeredithAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-16772670729479537902016-12-13T07:28:01.455-07:002016-12-13T07:28:01.455-07:00that sounds like an awful lot of patience to ask s...that sounds like an awful lot of patience to ask someone for. I am glad Same knows how to help you through it. On a another note, I love pecan pie- would love your recipe if you do not mind sharing :-) HugsTerpsichorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13704408254742966076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-31813839467563725502016-12-13T07:09:42.600-07:002016-12-13T07:09:42.600-07:00Hi, Ella,
I too have sister in laws that can be di...Hi, Ella,<br />I too have sister in laws that can be difficult, but your SIL takes the prize for being impossible to cope with, but the plus side to this is Sam has you. I think that's what I took out of this post, that he is taking good care at helping you to manage a very difficult situation. I think you handled it all beautifully. Good job, Ella!<br /><br />--Baker Bakerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16654399899358402634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-13244180930515293542016-12-13T06:41:33.915-07:002016-12-13T06:41:33.915-07:00I don't know Ella, it might be better if Patty...I don't know Ella, it might be better if Patty had a family intervention. She might benefit if she realized she was the reason she had no friends and her family cringed in her presence. How much worse could it be?Aimless Ramblinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00720714875762344391noreply@blogger.com