tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post3766132938520097863..comments2023-03-29T08:15:49.360-06:00Comments on Ella Ever After: Repair Manual for Broken ConnectionEllahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-4367102458315983022015-08-21T08:00:27.230-06:002015-08-21T08:00:27.230-06:00Better late than never, Laurel. Thanks for visiti...Better late than never, Laurel. Thanks for visiting! I am glad you are enjoying the posts. Please let me know if I can visit your blog. And come again.<br /><br />EllaEllahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-60998499860743555552015-08-21T07:08:58.029-06:002015-08-21T07:08:58.029-06:00I'm late but compelled to comment. What a wond...I'm late but compelled to comment. What a wonderful description of how our needs are met on both sides. It truly works for those of us that know it. Enjoying your posts. Laurelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07118654239769511815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-53370230711061193452015-08-08T07:51:36.946-06:002015-08-08T07:51:36.946-06:00Thanks for visiting, Amy. I absolutely hate sayin...Thanks for visiting, Amy. I absolutely hate saying that I need a spanking. In the beginning, I couldn't do that at all. It was much easier to talk about my need for it and then be patient. Getting bratty seemed to make it a game, and I never wanted it to be a game. Keep reading and visit the blogs on my list. You will find lots to talk about with Eric. It takes time.<br /><br />EllaEllahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-1943603044958486922015-08-07T21:50:14.789-06:002015-08-07T21:50:14.789-06:00Hi Ella, This post did a lot for me. We are new ...Hi Ella, This post did a lot for me. We are new to this and I feel like I'm desperate to have Eric spank me but I don't know how to say it, or ask for it. I still have a hard time admitting to myself that this works for me. So, I act out, get bratty... poke and push him. It's not working. I seem to be pushing him away when I really just want his attention. You were just able to say it. Wow. AmyEric51Amy49https://www.blogger.com/profile/12407230888766565252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-55134934712717251702015-08-06T20:12:48.258-06:002015-08-06T20:12:48.258-06:00Welcome!
Do you feel that way, too, when you final...Welcome!<br />Do you feel that way, too, when you finally reconnect? Thanks for coming to visit me.<br /><br />EllaEllahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-14911365601377500102015-08-06T19:27:36.340-06:002015-08-06T19:27:36.340-06:00ved that line too! It's so unpleasant when thi...ved that line too! It's so unpleasant when things feel off. Glad you're back where you're supposed to be!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-168022808487936412015-08-04T19:56:03.214-06:002015-08-04T19:56:03.214-06:00I understand that feeling! It's quite wonderf...I understand that feeling! It's quite wonderful, isn't it?<br />I do have a blog. Thanks for asking! <br />http://becomingbabygirl.blogspot.com/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-17511094513935694312015-08-04T19:44:52.495-06:002015-08-04T19:44:52.495-06:00Thank you, Lilli! I am glad you like that line. ...Thank you, Lilli! I am glad you like that line. I never know quite how to describe that feeling when we reconnect. I am very happy you said hello. Is there a blog where I can visit you?<br /><br />EllaEllahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-54766752033242049952015-08-04T19:01:44.572-06:002015-08-04T19:01:44.572-06:00So glad you realized what was going on and reconne...So glad you realized what was going on and reconnected. I love this line "At that moment I always imagine that there are 2 doors on Sam's chest that open, and I can climb right in." :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-24324708896217447622015-08-04T04:57:13.517-06:002015-08-04T04:57:13.517-06:00Hello to you, Jan,
This is such a nice comment!
Yo...Hello to you, Jan,<br />This is such a nice comment!<br />You have given me something to think about here. Sam does do what he calls a "weekend adjustment" spanking when he expects that I need to remember who is in charge. But this idea for company and parties might help when I get that "driven to perfection" mindset that hits when we are expecting people.<br /><br />Hugs Across the Pond,<br />EllaEllahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-70034169968685829992015-08-04T01:39:06.993-06:002015-08-04T01:39:06.993-06:00Hi Ella, I have no idea why it works but it just d...Hi Ella, I have no idea why it works but it just does and I have long learn't to accept it. We had friends over last night and I have a thing about cooking for other people. I hate it! I just get so anxious, lack confidence I suppose so I got my spanking first thing yesterday and then swats all day before they arrived. I did manage not to poison anyone so i guess it worked!<br />love Jan,xxan English Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00696976759167193635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-69524312178697117392015-08-02T19:19:59.377-06:002015-08-02T19:19:59.377-06:00I am smiling at your words, Minelle. That is exac...I am smiling at your words, Minelle. That is exactly what I needed. Thanks for visiting.<br /><br />Ella Ellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-73487363868129816022015-08-02T19:17:03.758-06:002015-08-02T19:17:03.758-06:00Wise words. No wallowing allowed and pick myself ...Wise words. No wallowing allowed and pick myself up. Maybe next time I will make better choices. It feels nice that your comment shows how you see the good in everyone.<br /><br />Thanks,<br />Ella Ellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-58084078724367605262015-08-02T19:06:02.014-06:002015-08-02T19:06:02.014-06:00Thanks, Sunny. Maybe there is a story in here som...Thanks, Sunny. Maybe there is a story in here somewhere. You always seem to be able to put the big ideas into words.<br /><br />EllaEllahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-14501866107822400072015-08-02T19:03:55.254-06:002015-08-02T19:03:55.254-06:00It does help to know that this same thing happens ...It does help to know that this same thing happens to others, Ami. The out-think plan is an idea. Maybe getting an implement would be easier than saying those words. <br /><br />TTWD is tougher when the real world pushes in.<br /><br />Hugs Across the Pond,<br />EllaEllahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-36070377202678971772015-08-02T18:50:47.538-06:002015-08-02T18:50:47.538-06:00Hi Roz,
Yes, I think you and Cat are right. Why i...Hi Roz,<br />Yes, I think you and Cat are right. Why is it SO hard to ask? Someone needs to put that into a post. Thanks, though, for your positive words.<br /><br />Hugs to you,<br />EllaEllahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-18732364191919355622015-08-02T18:28:06.885-06:002015-08-02T18:28:06.885-06:00Hey to you, Cat. No, we have been at ttwd for qui...Hey to you, Cat. No, we have been at ttwd for quite a while. It is never perfect, but the journey is fine with me.<br /><br />I do believe you are right, though. We do sometimes slip back into old roles, especially when there is a crowd of people. The "bottom" line was what indeed restored the connection. <br /><br />Hugs,<br />Ella Ellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-81667664936371359172015-08-02T15:39:30.625-06:002015-08-02T15:39:30.625-06:00You both know it works and have your eyes wide ope...You both know it works and have your eyes wide open. Your relationship is lovely. Whether making love or spanking-reconnection and what we NEED is how it happens!Minielle Labraunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16206283897752166320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-32181622938703810492015-08-02T14:59:29.214-06:002015-08-02T14:59:29.214-06:00Wow Abby! Twelve years. It is so difficult to exp...Wow Abby! Twelve years. It is so difficult to explain, even to people of like mind. It is even harder to those who are not. <br /><br />I would like to hear how others explain it.<br /><br />EllaEllahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-66557117598138059852015-08-02T14:47:35.750-06:002015-08-02T14:47:35.750-06:00You are right, PK. I think I am "wired"...You are right, PK. I think I am "wired" this way. Perhaps that is why the friendships with all of you mean so much to me. I know you understand.<br /><br />EllaEllahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-53996562761966687182015-08-02T14:45:50.508-06:002015-08-02T14:45:50.508-06:00Glad the reconnection worked and you were able to ...Glad the reconnection worked and you were able to ask for what you needed.Aimless Ramblinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00720714875762344391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-79108855199089028592015-08-02T14:44:19.263-06:002015-08-02T14:44:19.263-06:00Thank you for your comment, Kate. Making love is ...Thank you for your comment, Kate. Making love is a beautiful way to connect, and a part of our marriage that I treasure. The kind of connection that I am writing about here is something that only comes when I am spanked. This is the relationship I chose, and Sam was loving enough to become my guide. <br /><br />Our marriage was always a good one before we ever began this thing we do. It has enriched what is between us more than I can describe in words. If you ever dream of being spanked, then keep reading. If it is something foreign and repugnant, then reading will not make you understand.<br /><br />Ella<br />Ellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-90149705589595104302015-08-02T14:30:06.799-06:002015-08-02T14:30:06.799-06:00Thank you, Meredith. I love when you visit.
Ella...Thank you, Meredith. I love when you visit.<br /><br />EllaEllahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-33752343716097597972015-08-02T07:59:15.798-06:002015-08-02T07:59:15.798-06:00Joining the chorus of people that hate the disconn...Joining the chorus of people that hate the disconnect, but really love the reconnect. Let's be honest, it's going to happen and when it does, we can either learn from it and make our respective relationships stronger, or we can wallow in the misery of how we feel when we are disconnected. I know that naturally most of us that live in a truly loving form of D/s understand exactly what I mean and, and exactly how to use the experience of setbacks for the greater good of the relationship going forward. The author of the post and each f the commenter here are good examples of that.sub hub in phxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17489169642204094414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-7297511990666024312015-08-02T06:25:45.623-06:002015-08-02T06:25:45.623-06:00I can't even describe the number of times this...I can't even describe the number of times this same thing has happened with us. I think it is quite common, it is just 'knowing' what is happening and how you should deal with it that is difficult at first. Now I try to out-think it. I either ask to be spanked 'before' or go and delve in the drawer and give Dan an implement the day after. I just hate that horrid feeling of disconnection. I understand perfectly. Glad, in fact, to hear that someone else gets these feelings too!<br /><br />So glad the reconnection worked for you both.<br /><br />Hugs<br />AmiAmi Starsonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01745610022591654541noreply@blogger.com