tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post5007095511786627266..comments2023-03-29T08:15:49.360-06:00Comments on Ella Ever After: A Mighty WallopingEllahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04236225732606002291noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-73814767754245391322016-03-14T21:52:10.462-06:002016-03-14T21:52:10.462-06:00Ella....I know I'm late to this one. I read th...Ella....I know I'm late to this one. I read the post three different times but didn't reply at first because there was just so much to think about. Submission has been such a struggle for me so this post touched my heart. <br /><br />I'm so glad that you were eventually able to let go and trust Sam. Isn't it funny that it all worked out anyways? We never seem to trust that it will...that they need our help to get it right. But they don't. Nine times out of ten they've got it handled. That trust though...it's so hard for some areas while it is so easy in others. Why is it so hard to let go? I'm not sure but this is something I know I need to work on. <br /><br />Thank you, Ella, for this post.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11566699785253183984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-32079660543506854052016-03-13T20:56:41.978-06:002016-03-13T20:56:41.978-06:00beautifully written. thank-you for sharing your be...beautifully written. thank-you for sharing your beautiful thoughts about trust and letting go of control and standing by your man. HugsTerpsichorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13704408254742966076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-75732206909887170872016-03-12T02:18:27.663-07:002016-03-12T02:18:27.663-07:00Ella a wonderful post. It's hard to let go of...Ella a wonderful post. It's hard to let go of control an to just trust. Thank you for sharing it with us. Spanking does help.<br /><br />Love,<br />Ronnie<br />xxronniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16402712634206383021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-31036079337813702082016-03-11T15:04:05.485-07:002016-03-11T15:04:05.485-07:00Amazing post. You have certainly given me food for...Amazing post. You have certainly given me food for thought.<br />SSBAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05317631273901974691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-25183542282762077482016-03-11T01:33:30.011-07:002016-03-11T01:33:30.011-07:00Such a hard situation to be in Ella when you have ...Such a hard situation to be in Ella when you have been a leader in many fields and now have to hand it all over to Sam. Glad he knew how to bring you back to him and trust in his decisions. Think its hard for all of us, thank you for sharing.<br />Hugs LindyLindy Thomashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13859977416089280383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-6955751770966186172016-03-10T21:08:07.455-07:002016-03-10T21:08:07.455-07:00So sorry you two had to go through that Ella but a...So sorry you two had to go through that Ella but at the same time, very happy you've come out so well on the other side. To me, trust is even more important than love. Keep up the great work.<br /><br />Hugs and blessings...CatCathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14266606975978680188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-1420197827419313222016-03-10T20:50:32.810-07:002016-03-10T20:50:32.810-07:00Another great post. I love how ttwd brings us back...Another great post. I love how ttwd brings us back to each other and establishes or re-establishes our roles when things start getting fuzzy. It's wonderful that Sam knew exactly what was needed to put everything back in place. It all makes me feel so safe and loved even though it may come with a very sore backside. Laurelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07118654239769511815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-53524654095416636732016-03-10T19:04:08.344-07:002016-03-10T19:04:08.344-07:00Thank you. Trust is so essential! I recognize most...Thank you. Trust is so essential! I recognize most of what you wrote here in myself too! I shared this with my guy because of how difficult it can be for each of us in this dynamic. We both need to read our partners and trust each other and our responses too! <br />I'm glad the spanking helped!Minielle Labraunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16206283897752166320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-30833439547867446022016-03-10T11:50:21.546-07:002016-03-10T11:50:21.546-07:00That was a really tough one Ella; thank you for sh...That was a really tough one Ella; thank you for sharing it. I 'get' how it was both the best and the worst spanking, though I've never had one of that magnitude.<br /><br />Hugs from across the pond,<br />RosieRosie Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00765687509366453029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-20834320567441801942016-03-10T11:48:47.390-07:002016-03-10T11:48:47.390-07:00oh Ella, I feel for you. It is the hardest thing t...oh Ella, I feel for you. It is the hardest thing to just trust and let go. Next time maybe it will be easier, here's hoping<br />love and sympathy Jan,xxan English Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00696976759167193635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-54092016949540335742016-03-10T09:12:08.302-07:002016-03-10T09:12:08.302-07:00I hope everyone in blog land reads this post.....I...I hope everyone in blog land reads this post.....I so get you...I was a junior high teacher, the oldest in my family, main caregiver for my kids, i trusted...but to truly give up control...that was a whole new idea, one that i did not embrace readily. Life is much easier and calmer now that I have learned to trust enough to give up that control. Yeah for hubby for knowing just how to get you back....<br />hugs abbyabbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15842526901481062563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-43376660398179284732016-03-10T09:08:33.657-07:002016-03-10T09:08:33.657-07:00Hi Ella, :)
Thank you for sharing this experien...Hi Ella, :)<br /> <br />Thank you for sharing this experience with all of us. The whole control thing/taking over/poking/"I know best" thing is a HUGE behavior to let go of- especially when one has, like you, been in a leadership role for so many years. It takes practice, and perhaps a few unpleasant spankings to get there. Sometimes it still comes popping out. Not easy! The fact that it is so upsetting to the ones that we love the most is the worst part of it all. Learning to fully let go and trust in this much deeper way, is no easy feat! <br /><br />Sometimes the biggest of loving spankings are the BEST loving spankings. "The worst and the best". I get that! They sure do speak volumes! Sam brought you right back to him. Sorry about such a spanking, but glad to hear that it was so very meaningful to you then.<br /><br />Your post made me tear up, and made me realize something that I needed to do too. Maybe I will write about it all. Your words here helped me out with something. You never know what one might learn/think about from a few heartfelt words! THANK YOU for sharing this post! Many hugs,<br /><br /><3 KatieKatiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09502903951761571578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-44817557218652875262016-03-10T08:52:24.840-07:002016-03-10T08:52:24.840-07:00Love is about trust. Even knowing that, it is dif...Love is about trust. Even knowing that, it is difficult to give over that control and trust. I know it is for me and I don't do well.Aimless Ramblinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00720714875762344391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-23167474447084339282016-03-10T07:56:15.201-07:002016-03-10T07:56:15.201-07:00What a great lesson, Ella. Life does throw problem...What a great lesson, Ella. Life does throw problems at us all and we think we're being "helpful" but at times, it does turn out to be more controlling and less trusting than anything. Thanks for sharing this post. We can all learn from your experience. AmyEric51Amy49https://www.blogger.com/profile/12407230888766565252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4089921175249262297.post-66606327485017864812016-03-10T07:50:33.305-07:002016-03-10T07:50:33.305-07:00Ella,
A powerful and excellent post on the benefit...Ella,<br />A powerful and excellent post on the benefit of ttwd. You are so right. Trust is essential. Pulling away is something that does happen and our men will not accept that in any way, It always makes me feel safe and loved when Jack calls me on that distancing. I am glad things are smooth and the lesson is learned. <br />MeredithAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com