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| This little blogger will need 6 pairs of shoes! |
Well, the big day is finally here! Last November was my first year blogging. I had no idea what LOL day meant and was not at all prepared. This year I was determined to be ready for the festivities. LOL is supposed to stand for "Love Our Lurkers." I really do take exception to the "lurker" designation. Sounds a bit voyeuristic and negative to me. I certainly did not feel that way back when I was just exploring this corner of blogland. I much prefer to call this day......
Love Our Learners
I would compare my early reading online to the pleasure I get from shoe shopping. They are all so lovely, and I like to hold them and stroke them and try them on. (I like leather in many walks of my life!) And I don't want some person continually asking me if I would like some help. I don't want to be interrupted. Please leave me alone and let me browse.
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| Mmmm......Just Looking |
That was the way I started reading here in blogland. I was browsing, and I was not ready to buy. Therefore, I did not comment. Period. I was not lurking; I was learning.
I was definitely not interested in chains and collars
and kinky metal accoutrements.
Neither did I want sensible, orthopedic
LOL (Little Old Lady) shoes.
Absolutely no Birkenstocks or Crocs.
Nix on practical athletic wear, too.
I was searching for some Classic, Black Pumps.
And then I found Meredith at New Twist. Oh, happy day! My analogy here is that I thought Mere and her blog were CLASSY. Finally, I thought, "I would gladly buy this pair of shoes!"
Why do we even bother with setting aside this time for you? Easy answer to that one. We were all just like you at one time. Once I discovered that there were shoes, aka blogs, out there by women who seemed a lot like me, I was very excited. As they say.....
If the Shoe Fits, Wear It.
These women were also fascinated by spanking and desired a relationship based on dd or ttwd. I was like a person dying of thirst. I would find someone's blog and read it from start to finish. I couldn't get enough shoes: I was insatiable. Have you ever ached because you wanted something so badly? That was me. I wanted to talk to someone like me.
Shy? Yep..... Scared? You bet...... Unsure? Very..... At that time, I knew in my heart that I could never even be half as clever or confident as the women whose shoes/blogs I was trying on for size. They were special, and I was not.
So What Changed?
One day I finally got the courage
To write a comment.
And so an amazing transformation began. If you are only still wishing for a ttwd relationship, it gives you a place to ask questions. Many bloggers welcome respectful emails which gives you a much more personal way to reach out. If you are just getting started with ttwd, it is a great way to get first hand advice. What do we get out of it? The same thing we get from blogging. The writing makes us examine ourselves and the way we practice ttwd and support that goal. It keeps us polishing our shoes, if you will.
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| Please, Please, Please |
This is not to say you should not be careful if you decide to get started with commenting or writing a stranger online. Protect your privacy and do not always assume that everyone is good. But there are a lot of honest and wonderful people out here, too. I even call some of them my sisters now. So, if and when you decide to make a comment, we will so welcome you. Remember that we were all there, too.
Signed With Love,
Ella Ever After
Size 7 1/2 Medium
Happy LoL Day Ella, absolutely love this post and love our learners. Always enjoy visiting :)
ReplyDeleteHope you enjoy and that you make lots of new friends :)
Hugs
Roz
I love these days, Roz. Old friends and new ones, too! Funny thing about the learning - it never stops. Every time I read hear in blogland, I learn something new.
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Ella
Hi Ella, I am very glad that we all get the chance to meet new people on this special day. I could not imagine the reality of meeting other bloggers in real life , especially ones like yourself that live do far away. I hope that lots of newbies go shoe shopping with you today!
ReplyDeletelove Jan, xx
It is pretty amazing, Jan. Who knew I would have such lovely friends Across the Pond. If you were a pair of shoes they would be pretty and pink.
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Ella
What a wonderful post...and I love the 'love our learners' idea!
ReplyDeletehugs abby
Thanks, Abby. I know that you are not the Master at your house, but you are certainly a master teacher on how to grin and bear (or bare) it. I learn a lot!
DeleteHugs From Ella
Hi, Ella,
ReplyDeleteHappy LOLearners Day to you today! I love the shoe analogy. I believe you and M are in the same category, both very classy ladies. I hope you make alot of new friends today!
--Baker
Oh, goodness, Baker. To put me in the same class as Meredith is quite the honor. We are so glad you have joined us this year. You have much to share.
DeleteA Woman Can Never Have Too Many Shoes,
Ella
Hi ya lady! The shoe analogy is perfect, as is the love our learning! Meeting so many wonderful people through writing is a blessing for sure!
ReplyDeleteHappy LOL
Ps..... I either wear 7 and a half or eight! Hint! ;)
And you are one of those wonderful ladies. I do love the writing, too. That always teaches me something about myself.
DeleteLove When You Visit, Minelle!
Hey Sista!!! Very cute post and I too love the shoe analogy.
ReplyDeleteSunny, you are a precious Beach Sister for sure. You can make me laugh with just the mischief in your eyes. Remember, my friend, beaches require cute sandals.
DeleteCheers,
Ella
Hi Ella, I love your shoe analogy and thoughtful words of advice. :-) You are a wonderful writer and love reading your posts. I'm glad you started commenting and blogging... Hugs
ReplyDeleteSweet Terps, you have a way of making everyone thankful and not just on Thursdays either. We are all thankful to have you as a fellow blogger and friend.
DeleteHugs,
Ella
Classic black courts, my favourite! Great analogy Ella. I love reading here, your posts are so well thought out. I've been a bit of a lurker/learner of late but will be gabbing away again now.
ReplyDeleteRosie, waving from across the Pond xx
Rosie, I think I can see you waving from here. Thanks for the compliment. I forgot that those gorgeous shoes would be "courts" on your side of the Pond. We will have to tell Mere! She would be classy no matter what they were called.
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Ella
Ella, I love your posts. You are a lovvely lady. I have to agree with the others - your shoe analogy is perfect. Happy LOL day. I hope you get to meet some new friends.
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Ronnie
xx
Ronnie, I think I was right to browse for a long while before I wrote my first comment. Look at all the wonderful people I have met.
DeleteHugs Across the Pond,
Ella
Ella,
ReplyDeleteOh, my! I am the classy pair of high heels. I feel flattered and honored. Bless you!
You are so special to me as well.
Thank you for coming back to us. We all want you well.
Happy LoL Day, my good friend.
Meredith
Dear Classy Lady,
DeleteYou would be special in dime store flip-flops. That "First Hello" was a very lucky day for me.
Well and Happy,
Ella
Hi Ella, :) What a wonderful post! I love the shoe analogy!
ReplyDeleteYou are so right about the lurking being learning. I remember doing the very same things, before commenting. Then comment I did, and it opened up a whole new world. The joy of finding like-minded bloggers out there, is truly special. We make friends over time, and continue to learn from, as well as support each other!
I think we all need a few more shelves in our closets to hold all these wonderful shoes, don't you? What an awesome community! Thank you for what you share, and for being you. I have a pair of shoes that loves special country songs, and warms my heart! ;) Many hugs and love,
<3 Katie
Katie,
DeleteHow I love to read your comments. You make everyone around you feel important and loved. That is a special gift, Missy.
If you were a pair of shoes, they would have to be cute little Mary Janes, because you are bubbly and young at heart.
Click Your Heels Together Three Times :)
Ella
Love our learners? Very nice! Love the shoe analogy too!
ReplyDeleteHappy LOL Day!!! :)
these3fhl.blogspot.com
And a Happy LOL Day to you as well, Lilli. Shoes do make me happy, too. We all learn to love lots of new friends by blogging, and these 2 days are just icing on the cake.
DeleteHugs From Ella
Hi Ella, I am just an old pair of much loved crocks...a bit old and scruffy but love to visit whenever I can.
ReplyDeleteI love your posts and this community as it reinforces that we are somewhat of a big family...everyone with it ups and downs but ultimately all here, if only silently, for each other.
Thanks so much for visiting today, Don. Comfy shoes are like old friends. I truly love that you called it a big family. That sounds perfect.
DeleteAnd, yes, it is always amazing to see all the kind people that send greetings and prayers when one of us meets a challenge in life.
Sending Hugs Downunder To You, Mister :)
Ella.. What a wonderful way to invite our lurker friends in to see how we work together to support one another in this journey of TTWD. I can say my time in the early years as just like yours. I would find a blog I identified with and would read it from start to finish. You never now what someone is posting about that will have meaning for you in your time of need. Thanks for being there for me and for new prospective bloggers out there.
ReplyDeleteGoodness, Annabelle, you are so welcome. Flowers don't usually bloom at this time of year, but I feel like your petals are opening again. A fresh start.
DeleteWe do indeed learn from each other. It means so much to me to know so many like minded women.
Hugs From Ella
After all, life IS all about the shoes...! ;-)
ReplyDeleteHappy LOL Day!
Welcome Jz! I am so glad to have you visit these special LOL days. It is just wonderful to meet new readers, and we should thank Hermione again for being such a dedicated hostess.
DeleteAnd if you love shoes, then you already have a 5 Star Reader Rating.
So Glad To Meet You!
Ella
Sweet Ella, I come by every single time you post and I love what you have to say! PK and I talk of you often. She thinks as much of you as I do. You explained how you got into blogging so very well. I do remember and I remember being surrounded by the kindest, warmest, most supportive in the world. The people I met here helped me through some very hard times.
ReplyDeleteI would love it if you could come play in my shoe closet! You'd love it. Tom won't let me wear heels as high as I used to, but I still have some of my old favorites. Now if we could just get PK out of those flip-flops and tennis shoes! Goodness!
Cassie, I am most excited that you came to visit this exciting weekend. Thank you and PK for all the love and kindness you show to me and so many others. I think I would put you in the CLASSY category, too. I am sure Meredith would agree.
DeleteAlas, I can no longer wear as high a heel as I would like. However, I do have one pair that I pull out once in a while to wear just for Sam. I choose to call them my Fuck Me Pumps. Sam has no problem with that at all.
Despite the choice of flip-flops and tennis shoes, I would not change one thing about PK. She is perfect just the way she is.
Love,
Ella
Happy LOL Days, Ella! What a lovely explanation of how you came to blogland and blogging. Love the shoe analogy...of course, I do love shoes...except Birkenstocks, Crocs and little old lady shoes. hahaha
ReplyDeleteHugs and blessings...Cat
Thanks, Cat. I would love to go shoe shopping with you any old time. When you think about it, friends are like shoes. You simply cannot have too many.
DeleteHugs From Ella
Ella really, really love your shoe analogy. We are all varied shoes in our blogland. Happy LOL day, hope you have many new friends drop by to try a pair of shoes on for size. Have fun.
ReplyDeleteHugs Lindy x
Lindy, it is so amazing that we can be such good friends when we live so far away from each other. And, yes, each of us have a distinct style, just like shoes. It is a special day! I even heard from Downunder Don!
DeleteHugs From Ella
Hi Ella!
ReplyDeleteI wanted you to know that your blog is my favorite! You are such a good writer, and I relate to you because I am very much like you in many ways!
My husband and I have been together for 38 years, but since the day 22 months ago when I Googled "spanking", our marriage has been transformed! The first thing I came across was Taken in Hand. I was amazed that there were people who actually lived a lifestyle that I had always assumed was my fantasy only! I showed it to my husband and it only took one day for him to agree we could try it! A bit awkward at first, but within a few days miracles happened in our marriage! I realized I hadn't been respecting my Husband and when I apologized to him, walls between us came crashing down! There have been many bumps in the road, but we have found such intimacy and happiness and our sex life is on fire! At our age!! It has been such a blessing!
Anyway, thank you for writing your blog! It has been very helpful along the way! I particularly want to thank you for being willing to share your vulnerability! You are the best of all at that and it really helps me so much! Now my husband is able to help me manage my emotions!
I hope you are fully recovered now, I really missed you when you were too sick to post!
With love and gratitude.
Ava
Such a beautiful long comment deserves a beautiful long reply. Ava, I am most excited to meet you! I thank you for the lovely compliments. It makes me very proud to know that my writing speaks to you. If I continue with the analogy, I think you have found some shoes that fit perfectly.
DeleteI, too, spent an enormous amount of time at Taken in Hand long ago. That is actually where I first found Meredith. Sam was patient and encouraging as we talked about ttwd and how we wanted it to work for us. As you said, it "transformed" our marriage. You have described that perfectly.
I recognize a frankness and honesty in your comment when you talk about the respect for your husband. The miracles that happened between the two of you and others, too, are like a precious gift you give to each other. The bumps, too!
I will tell you, Ava, that you are one of the best reasons for me to blog. It keeps me motivated and humble and honest to know that you found some of my posts special. They are created with love for people just like you.
Hope you will comment again when you find something worthy. You are special, Ava.
Love from Ella
Ava, if you choose, please send me a note on my email address. I would love to hear from you.
DeleteElla
I love your analogy. You are absolutely right, it was soooo amazing to find like minded women here in bogland, it still shocks me in a way to think how far we've come. Thanks to blogs like yours and many others it was easy to find a place for it all and feel not just good about it but great! Thank you for the excellent writing and the sharing of your story.
ReplyDeleteHi Laurel,
DeleteWe love to have you visiting this corner of blogland! You are very welcome to the "family" as one comment said above. It is amazing to feel such a connection with other women who are so like you. It opens up a whole new world.
You are also right about how ttwd has helped us to come so far. It is over 3 years for Sam and I, and I know we would never go back.
I am so thankful that you enjoy my writing. I try to write from the heart. Wise counsel from Meredith keeps me honest and true.
Your visits always make me smile,
Ella
Nicely done, yet again! Amy, size 8 :)
ReplyDeleteAw, shucks, Amy! You are so kind to share those sweet words. Love when you come to visit. Glad to know that you enjoy the writing. It is truly a labor of love.
DeleteHugs From Ella
Lurking but will visit more often.Looks like you girls have a lot of fun.
ReplyDeleteHello, Michael. So very glad you stopped by today. I feel like all the friends who have come to visit have their own wisdom to share. I don't always make it, but I do try to reply to all the comments that come my way. I will look forward to getting to know you better.
DeleteElla
Happy Leather Or Lace Day, Ella! (Apparently, LOL can stand for quite a few things.) May the comments keep rolling in!
ReplyDeleteDr. Ken
Oh, Dr. Ken, I totally love the Leather and Lace interpretation! Think there is an idea for a post there, good sir. Thanks so much for the comment!
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Ella:
ReplyDeleteSorry to be late for LOLs days. Thank you for blogging, the thoughts of a most feminine girl are indeed refreshing.
Rick
Hello there, Rick. No need to apologize. I myself did not get to visit near as many blogs as I wished. I plan to keep up my blog hopping this whole week.
DeleteI love that you have written me. Thank you. It is wonderful to hear from some men this time. I think I am more feminine and that has made Sam more masculine. Who knew we could ever be where we are now.
Ella Ever After