Friday, February 24, 2017

Code Red




I know most everyone sends texts to their spouses, and most of the time texts offer some privacy to the couple.  If you want to include something very personal or suggestive, you can be fairly sure that only your partner is going to see it.  I do love the feeling that I can let Sam know I am thinking of him or finding that he is thinking about me.  The little glitch for us is that Sam does not text and more than that, he doesn't ever want to.  I will certainly send out an celebratory post, if he ever changes his mind.  I have dozens of bad-girl texts just floating around in my head.



 
However, we do email often as we are both still working.  And even if I don't have anything special to say, I am required to file my "Flight Plan" by 4:00 pm each work day so Sam knows when I am off work and if I have errands before I come home.   I do not forget this duty often, and if I do, a spanking will see to it that it doesn't happen again for a very long time.  Such a nice part of ttwd is missing him whenever we are apart.  Of thinking of him during my work day and smiling.  Of watching the clock and seeing how long it is until I am home again with him.  Feeling his arms around me and tucking my head into his neck.





At work, I am not at my desk for 8 straight hours.  There are many responsibilities that take me away from my computer.  But when I am working at my desk, I think of Sam often.  Since he owns his own business and works almost exclusively at his computer, email is an easy and quick way to communicate back and forth throughout the day even it is just about mundane or ordinary things.  "I am stopping at the grocery store.  Do you need anything?"






I am always very careful of what I put in emails from my workplace.  The medical facility at which I work would not smile upon unseemly messages.  That doesn't stop me though.  It's just more challenging when we want to say something personal.  It is quite common for us to use "code" words in certain emails.  Like many of you I am sure, we also code our ttwd lives verbally when we are with others.  I really find it great fun to have a spanking conversation while sitting with a bunch of friends or family and no one else understands our code. 





While I was perusing illustrations for this post, I stumbled across another research study!  This one would be more of what is called "behavioral" research.  

"Couples who use secret , just-between-us codes have greater relationship satisfaction than couples who don't," according to a study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships.  I read the complete article and discovered that our "code" talk is more than just fun.  Using nicknames and made-up language is an easy way to inject positive communication into everyday life.  In fact, it's probably the single easiest thing you can do to keep romance going strong.






So I started to compile a listing.  I should think that most couples both of the ttwd persuasion and those who are not, have more than one way to hint that they would appreciate some sexual attention.  It can be as simple as putting your hands on your man and asking if he would like to "fool around" or "play."  Really, sometimes the touch is all that is needed.  A bit of electricity about the skin contact. 




  •   "Mmmm..., I am really hungry," with a certain look in your eyes will be answered with, "Me, too."

  •   "So enjoyed Sunday morning.  Let's do that again soon!" means thank you for the great sex.  There could be a spanking acknowledgement included in this, as well.  

  •   Here's one I heard from a friend.  "Tired of the self serve pump.  Just not as good of service as my regular guy."

  •   When I kneel in front of Sam and start to unbuckle his belt or unzip his pants, I softly say, "I just want to say hello."  It is a perfect code to send earlier in the day.  It is amazing what the anticipation factor does for a blowjob.



Of course, if you raised children, you may have been using covert messages for many years.  Sam and I both used the phrase, "an executive lunch" to let each other know we were up for sex, especially when the boys were off at school.






There are some code phrases that most ttwd wives will recognize with no explanation.  I think I have heard one of these on almost everyone's blogs or in a story at one time or another.



  •  "We will discuss this later."
  •  "I think we can talk about this when we get home."
  •  "You are playing with fire, Ella."
  •  "In the bedroom, NOW."
Funny how such innocent words take on a whole new ominous meaning.  Then not so funny at all.  That is "Code Red" for sure.





Then there are happy meetings of his hand and my backside.  If there is a "Just because" in the text of what either of us write, it means there will be some "good girl" attention lavished on my bottom.  That always makes me smile at my monitor, even if there is a really boring staff meeting coming up in 5 minutes. 





From our early dating years and even once in a while all these years later.... the word "fiercely" meant we were so in love and felt such a passionate urgency, like we might crush each other just hugging.




"Practically perfect in every way," is a wonderful tease.  Sam rarely disappoints me with this one.  After an interjection such as "HA!" there is usually some spanky action in order.  

An old one that we still use when a topic seems to be a sore spot between us is, "Let's be friends," followed by some hugs.  Humor is the best way out of some differences.  We don't use this as often because there are really not that many disagreements anymore. 




Most days when I file my flight plan by email, I request that Sam "save me a seat."  That is code for I want to just sit on his lap and have him hold me a good long while.  And every single day, I sign my notes to him in a way that acknowledges he is my HOH and deserves my respect.

                                     Love you, mister,
                                     me




                            

                             Here's hoping some of you will share
                   a bit of your secret language with all the rest of us.





19 comments:

  1. Ella,
    I left home for multiple errands and while getting tings accomplished, I remembered that you had a new post up to read. I am having fun thinking about our code words that Jack and I share. Your post is a very sweet one.
    Meredith

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    1. I think that we have always enjoyed a private language of love. TTWD just adds new possibilities.

      Hugs From Ella

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  2. I love how you sign your flight plan...perfect! Every time I hear youg lady...I know I need to calm it down, even if it is said in a loving way, in front of friends and family. hugs abby

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    1. He is my "mister" and I love telling him so. I always giggle when I hear a man use that designation for his woman. "Young lady..." seems to say it all.

      Ella Giggling

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  3. Love this post, Ella...really like the flight plan. ;) Had code words with my ex and with Matthew but for the most part, they were different. Just as their quirks and spankable offenses were different. Thanks for sharing.

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

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    1. Just this week, Cat, I almost blew the cut off for the Flight Plan to be filed. Busy day at work and when I looked at my watch, it was 3:58 pm! Close call!

      Ella

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  4. Ella.. I very much enjoyed this post and found myself smiling as I recognized our relationship in this as well. We are empty nesters now and so most things can simply just be said when needed unless we are in public and then just a simple look or a quite whisper is all that is needed to know what will be occurring. Now that we work together 24/7 we don't text much and I kinda miss that, but the fact that we can communicate whenever we want more than makes up for it.

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    1. Annabelle,
      Oh, I could certainly identify with the quiet whisper when we are out or even with others here at home. Time for me to shut my mouth.

      Ella

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  5. Love the post, Ella. I work from home so there's no one around to hear the ping of a text or email arriving. When we are out, I get the raised eyebrow or subtle pressure of a hand, familiar to most women in ttwd. On the rare occasion I'm in trouble, he makes a soundless clapping motion - the sound will come later!
    Rosie xx

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    1. My goodness, Rosie. It might be a soundless clapping motion, but couldn't be more ominous. Clever man!

      Hugs Across the Pond,
      Ella

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  6. Ella,
    Such an excellently written post! With lots of children it is a necessity to have communication that is unknowing to those around us. We learned that the quickest of anything in ttwd. One thing is for sure if he says we need some exercise I know we're going to have a bit of fun in our bedroom that night!
    --Baker

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    1. Baker, this is another good one! That sort of "exercise" sounds much more enjoyable than my treadmill.

      Ella

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  7. I've seen how much time you put into your posts and it shows. Nice job Ella.

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    1. Aww shucks, Sunny Girl. Thanks. I marvel at how a new story just seems to flow from your fingertips!

      Hugs From Ella

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  8. Loved reading this post Ella. Your flight plan and the way you sign it put a smile on my face. Thanks for sharing.

    Hugs Lindy xx

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    1. I have to admit that before ttwd, I would constantly forget to tell Sam where I was and when I would be home. The flight plan is here to stay.

      Ella

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  9. Hi Ella, we have cope words for sure. Trying to remember all!
    I love your save me a seat one! Sweet, and comfy!

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    1. I do say "save me a seat" almost every day. It is my favorite spot to sit in the whole wide world.

      Love and Hugs From Ella

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  10. Almost since the day we got married, we have used names for each other's privates. (Totally my doing. I name everything. I think I freaked my poor sweetie out pretty bad when I named his member, LOL!) These days, when my hubby says that "Fred" needs attention, I know exactly what he means.

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