Most of us have something outside of work or our home/family responsibilities that we could call a "hobby". An interest or even a passion that we enjoy in our free time. Retirement seems to be the perfect reason to spend even more energy on those activities that give us pleasure.
A hobby can be solitary like reading or swimming. Sam likes to be in his workshop building furniture or restoring guns. (BTW, that workshop is where the infamous Mr. Paddle was born.) I believe hobbies like these are restorative to the spirit. Many times hobbies can be a social occasion as well. I have lovely memories of all the wonderful people I came to know when I was active in drama. I think it's great fun to go "junking" at dusty thrift shops and antique stores with a good friend. Sports are wonderful whether you are a player or a spectator. We love to spend time outdoors at a private shooting range. You don't have to play football to love it. It's fun for many folks to get together with friends, food, and drink to enjoy a game together.
We can relax and unwind. We can nurture our creativity and improve our mood. As we age, a hobby can challenge us mentally and physically. We can meet new people and form important and rewarding relationships. Hobbies can even be an integral component in fighting depression. Life can be full of situations we can't control. I see hobbies as something where I am in charge. Sam may be the boss around this house, but when I'm baking bread, I am directing the activity.
The other week, I had reason to be filling out one of those forms/surveys that ask for your interests. You know the ones. Sort of like a really boring meme.
"Tell us about your hobbies. Please check all that apply."
Well, I thought of what boxes I used to check or respond to when asked that question.
The Vanilla Me of Yore.
Shopping (Yes, that is a hobby, I say.)
Then I thought of what I might write today IF I could be my perfectly frank ttwd self to the whole world. Of course, this doesn't mean I don't still enjoy my old pursuits, but I've broadened my hobby horizon immensely.
- Kisses pushed up against the wall
- This Thing We Do
- Spanking, Paddling, Caning
- Making love as often as possible
- Finding joy in pleasing my husband
- Lap sitting
- Renewed interest in corsets and stockings
- Flogging for pleasure
- Butt plugs and anal play
- Spooning with Sam's hand on my bottom
- Skyrocket orgasms
- Creative uses for kitchen implements
- Riding in the truck with my hand on Sam's thigh
- New favorite genre of reading for pleasure
- Appreciation of leather in a whole new way
- Conversions of former sweater drawers into toy boxes
- Writing for a new purpose and personal satisfaction
- Friends who understand me for who I really am
- Realization of my own potential for happiness
Life has changed for me in ways I would never have dreamed possible. Sam and I spend more time on all the pleasures that ttwd has brought to us. Our old hobbies are still with us and we love them as much as ever. But time seems to pass differently now. The reality of who we have become and that we have carved a secret relationship for ourselves makes us look forward to every moment together. Best of all, our new "hobbies" fill our lives with meaning and joy.
I remembered a quote from the ancient poet, Ovid, that always made me think of the importance of celebrating what makes one an individual.
"In our leisure we reveal
what kind of people we are."
TTWD makes me one of the happy people.