This idea came to me one night after a really delicious "Just Because" spanking. We don't ever call it a "good girl" spanking because we have 2 female dogs. At our house, "Good girl!" will have both dogs sitting prettily by the Pup-Peroni container and salivating profusely.
Anyway, lately Sam likes to say with a devilish smirk on his face,
"Just Because I can and Just Because I love you."
What compares to that first beer after a long day at work? That would be a "Just Because" spanking from my dear husband. He unzips my pants and slips his fingers along the sides of my panties to slowly slide both down together. He will arrange me over his knee and start with just rubbing in circles. Sort of hypnotic - I can start drifting off to my happy place before he even starts spanking.
- Cares of the day - Gone...
- Thoughts of chores - Gone...
- Dreading next SIL visit - Gone...
Sam will always tell me how pretty my bottom is. Happy place is getting closer. JB spankings are almost always with his hand, although, of course, this is an HOH decision. He is just so damn good with his hand now; it amazes me! He says his hand used to hurt some but not any longer. Both my bottom and his hand have trained hard. If there was an Olympic event for spanking, we could compete, I am sure.
Hard to describe why this is the best spanking of all, but I think the sting builds up slower and it lasts longer, too. Yummy! Sam takes his time. I cannot even tell you what he says, but he is almost always talking, and I love that. I am usually opening the door to happy place. He can also "read" me now. He knows if I am not making any noise, then he might step it up. If I am not squirming, he is being a "wuss." (I actually said that once. Never again.)
OK, so if you are a spank-loving woman, this is all sounding like a perfect evening. I agree. It is! What's the one thing that could destroy this picture of domestic bliss? I will tell you in a hot minute.
IT IS NOT THE SAME IF I HAVE TO ASK!
OMG, I just hate that. Not sure if you all feel the same as I do, but, for me, having to ask spoils everything. If I have been needing his attention for several days and he hasn't noticed, I can quickly adopt a pissy attitude. I do not say the lines below, but I am certainly thinking them.
- Well, if you don't care enough to think about it yourself, then just never mind!
- Or...It will be a cold day in hell before I ask, mister!
- Or...Just go watch your silly cop show and good riddance!
This scene can sometimes precipitate a sudden reverse and turn it into addressing a snotty wife situation. Therefore, I might end up Over the Bed receiving my comeuppance. Definitely not as desirable as JB spanking, but shouldn't I still be happy. Isn't a spanking still a spanking? No, it is not.
I still had to ask. Again, I say, "NOT THE SAME." So really there is a "sub space" out there and mine includes Sam being dominant enough to initiate the spanking. Otherwise, there is a key component missing.
Occasionally I struggle with how to bring a thoughtful post to a close. This one wrote itself. As I was gathering my ideas down on
Platitudes From Ella on JBs and BJs
- What good for the goose is good for the gander
- You will reap what you sow.
- What goes around cums around.
So remember all you lovers out there-
Love Means Never Having to Ask