Thursday, May 11, 2017

Ella Turns Two!





These days I would rather ignore birthdays.  The years fly by way too fast, and the number connected to each year I have been alive is getting harder to face.  But I don't mind telling you at all that Ella Ever After is turning 2 years old!  TTWD is older than that because Sam and I introduced it into our relationship quite a while before I came upon Meredith and this circle of bloggers.  Before there was my blog.






Just like a young child is still egocentric and the center of his own little universe, Sam and I had no understanding of our place in this new life.  It was just the two of us, stranded on a deserted island.  I knew there were women out there like me, but I had no personal connection to any of them.  My internet browsing took me mostly to fictional stories and a few articles.  It fed my need, but it was also very lonely. 





The women (and a few guys) I have come to know through blogging are some of the smartest, most sensitive friends I have ever had.  I have met some of them in person, but I am referring here to ALL the readers I have come to know.  True individuals with unique personalities that shine through in their posts and their comments.  All friends.  All searching for their own fulfillment through ttwd and recognizing the honest truth that they need spanking in their lives .  A very special circle of women.


  

The blog, the writing, has helped me grow - in fact, I think it has made both Sam and I grow.  Instead of feeling isolated, I began to develop a sense of autonomy and self-determination.  I could identify with other bloggers, but became more comfortable with the way Sam and I approached ttwd.  Our differences.  I could feel genuine in my own skin.  Sam and I did not need to fit into someone else's mold.  Our roles began to feel more natural, like we had finally discovered what made me feel female and what made him feel male.  That is very important to us.




It is the writing and the communication with other women like me that has made me feel empowered.  Of course, we would continue with ttwd despite my writing or not.  But sometimes when I am struggling to compose a post for my blog, I realize that it is this exercise that makes me introspective.  Makes me keep striving to be the best I can be.  Like a child slowly matures from being solely a concrete thinker into exploring abstract concepts, I have come to know myself better.





So to me, the work I have put into 120 some posts over the last 2 years has been so much more than just finding a friend or understanding others' experiences on their ttwd journeys.  The writing has given me an insight into my own heart and mind that would never have happened if I had not begun to articulate how this new life works for us and the gift of a renewal with the man I love so dearly.   

                       I am very glad I chose the blogname of 
                                        Ella Ever After.

                It still fits just as well as when I wrote my first post.

                             Dreams do come true, you know.  
                           You just have to take that first step.  


22 comments:

  1. Ella, this post has been hiding for days, I've been waiting for it to appear! Congratulations on your blog's second anniversary. I love reading here.
    Rosie xx

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    1. So glad you come to visit, Rosie. I did have some trouble posting this for some reason. Blogger sometimes has a mind of its own.

      Hugs Across the Pond,
      Ella

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  2. Likewise I've been waiting and checking everyday to see where this post was hiding. Congratulations on your two year blogaversary. Its wonderful being apart of this community. I've enjoyed reading all your posts.
    Here's to many more Ella Ever After.
    Lindy xx

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    1. Thanks Lindy,
      It is a wonderful group of people, and you are surely one of them!!

      Sending Hugs Downunder,
      Ella

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  3. Hi Ella,
    This little community has been a godsend to many people and I am glad that you have become an important part of it. Many happy blogaversary and may there be many more to come

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    1. Don,
      What a lovely thing to say. I sincerely do feel we support each other. Hope you are feeling in the pink of health.

      Sending Hugs Downunder to Downunder Don!

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  4. You are so insightful - you put me to shame.

    Nice post - Happy Anniversary.

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    1. Gosh Sunny,
      I consider that high praise coming from you and thank you for being one of the most special ladies I know.

      Hugs From Ella

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  5. So happy you joined us....your writing, your blogging is a gift to all of us...you celebrate this blog anniversary with a very long good girl spanking! hugs abby

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    1. Thanks so much, Abby. I love the wishes for a nice long spanking. Those are treasured.

      Hugs From Ella

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  6. Happy second birthday! I love the way you think - I on the other hand, have decided to stop thinking.

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    1. You show your special thinking with every word you type and every book you finish. Thanks for your kind comment, dear girl.

      Tell Me About the Rabbits, George.

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  7. Ella my friend, Happy 2nd blogiversary. I am so happy that you are here in blogland and very happy that I had the pleasure of meeting you.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. Ronnie, you are a dear and one who made me feel so welcome here in blogland. Here is to meeting you again soon.

      Hugs Across the Pond,
      Ella

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  8. Sooo glad you decided to write your own blog. May it long continue.

    Happy Blogging Anniversary!

    Hugs
    Ami

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    1. Well, this is a surprise and a very pleasant one! Thank you for the good wishes, Ami. You are a very special lady.

      Hugs Across the Pond,
      Ella

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  9. Happy 2nd Blog Birthday Ella! This is a milestone definitely worth celebrating, good for you. Congratulations on over 120 posts! I like your deserted island analogy and understand it completely. I felt for the longest time that it would always just be the two of us heading down that ttwd road, but having found friends to share this all with has truly enriched my life. The blogs are so very important and I enjoy your blog immensely. It's always been a source of wisdom and entertainment for me. Thank you for writing and I hope there are many more Birthday celebrations to come.

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    1. What a beautiful and insightful comment, Laurel! First I will say a big thank you. It makes me so proud to hear that someone who visits my blog made a connection with something I have written.

      I think your comment is indicative of the way many of us feel when we identify with someone else's post. There are times when what has been written just touches my heart. Those are the ones I usually read to Sam because the authors are able to articulate something so well.

      Hugs From Ella

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  10. Happy Blog-A-Versary Ella,
    I have always loved how well you write and you have such an honest soul! Thank you for being such a kind and classy lady!
    --Baker

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  11. Thanks so much, Baker. You and I have talked about how important the writing is and keeping it true blue. It is funny to look at how much I have changed and how much I am the same. Maybe that's the journey.

    Hugs From Ella

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  12. beautiful :-) happy 2 years! :-) hugs

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  13. Ella,
    I am not sure how this post simply slipped by without my commenting. Happy birthday # 2. When you entered my life, it was a very good day indeed. Congratulations!!!
    Meredith

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