Saturday, September 19, 2015

Victoria's Secret is a Budget-Free Zone



No one can deny that good spanking leads to good sex.  And if sex is great, then it's lots of fun to have pretty lingerie.  I think it was Meredith who had a post once that talked about how it was strange to spend so much on something that was just going to end up on the floor.  That is true and when fingering the tag, it really makes you think.  But then you also think about how it will feel to slip into them/it/whatever and the look on his face when he sees you.  That is a very worthwhile way to spend some dollars once in a while.

Let me start this story again and take you back a few years with Sam and I.  When we were first making the big decisions about dd and ttwd, we knew we did not want lots of rules or intricate systems to determine what sort of spanking was needed.  There were several discussion that led to some changes about what was and was not acceptable about my temper.  I specifically asked for the help I needed to eat in a healthy way and maintain my weight.  The other big change came with regard to my spending on clothes or shoes.  

I have already admitted to a shoe addiction in an earlier post.  That is now much more controlled and in line with what Sam sees as a healthy number of shoes.  I sort of view it as a 12 stepper
These are very cute.
approach.  "I am powerless when it comes to shoe shopping and the number of shoes has become unmanageable."  It was really pretty simple.  I now have a cash only policy for clothes and shoes.  For anything else we may need, I am free to use credit. 




So are these.



This has been in effect for close to 2 years, and I am finding I am much more discriminating about my purchases.  In fact for the last 4 months, I have been banking most of my cash towards a huge vacation we are planning.  I feel very sensible and happy with myself.  There have been trips out of state where I may spend a bit more, but we always talk about it first.  If I need a pair of black pants for work, Sam will tell me to get any basics needed.

And if I do get an itch to shop, there is one type of purchase at Sam and Ella's that is always in the budget-free zone.  And, as you can guess by the title of the post, that would be lingerie.  Lovely filmy little things that slide up and barely cover anything anyway.  In fact if you are not accustomed to those tiny little thongs, you definitely need to get used to having the string that is supposed to be the back right between your cheeks.  

I have much more fun with brassieres.  I like the ones with no lining of course.  Ugh, I really  hate any kind of foam.  Lots of  muted colors, too.  Lilac and red wine and soft greens and blues and pinks.  Can't go wrong with black lace, of course.  Lace is always nice, but there are also some beautiful ones that have supportive strips reminiscent of corsets.  

Oh, let's do talk corsets.
Sam truly loves those!  I do, too, but I must admit that not only do they end up on the floor, but it takes forever to get them hooked.  I swear a lot during the getting them on part.  Sam taking them off is lots more fun.  Stockings, too.  Sometimes he never does take those off.  

I love easy little chemise type slips, and these are much easier than corsets by a mile.  It is an easy 20 second bedroom outfit, and we are ready to play.  Again, see-through lace is always a favorite.  Many are from a brand called "In Bloom by Jonquil."  I found the first one at Nordstrom.  Since then I have found the same brand much cheaper at TJ Maxx.  Also like "Betsey Johnson."  Some simple and slinky, and others that float over you.
  

Anyway, Victoria's Secret is a budget-free zone, and it is fun to try things on.  There can be many a "No" before you find that "Yes!"  Then, too, one of Sam's favorites is just me in one of his white shirts and nothing else.   




    

20 comments:

  1. Ella, I love that these things make both of you happy. But I'll just say I would have no restrictions on any of these things because you have to have a gun to my head before I'd buy any of them! The only reason for shoes are extremely cold temps. otherwise I would be barefoot or flip-flops everywhere! But I know you have a kindred spirit in Ami! It does take all kinds doesn't it?

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    1. PK, I love to read your comments! They make me smile.

      I will never put a gun to your head, but I think you have forgotten that I do like to shoot out at the range. We are going this week I hope. However, I am perfectly happy to practice with guns and wear nice lingerie. I do not see that as a split personality, just a woman whose interests are well-rounded.

      I promise to never ask you to go shoe shopping, but if I ever get to meet Ami, watch out.

      Ella

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  2. Hi Ella, oh you do have some lovely things, I love satiny stuff and lace. Would never ever wear foam anything either! Shoes i am not so fond of buying, my passion is dresses, I rarely wear anything else when I am with hubby. I think I might be the only woman on the planet who has not worn jeans,lol.
    Lovely post
    love Jan,xx

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    1. Hi to you, Jan. You sound happy, and that makes me smile, too. I do not understand the dress thing, but I have read that you are a dancer. Perhaps that is where that comes from. Being all graceful and twirly with lovely long legs.

      As far as not ever wearing jeans, I am mystified. Jeans that fit well are like an old friend. But I will repeat PK's words; it takes all kinds. Please drop me an email when you have time.

      Hugs Across the Pond,
      Ella

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  3. Funny how sexy a man's white shirt can be. I have discovered corsets also...lace is always yummy...
    hugs abby

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    1. Hello Abby! Yes, it is funny how that works. I forgot to say that there is one other thing you can add to the white shirt that makes it a stunning outfit. Black high heels. Can't wear them much anymore, but I have a beautiful pair stashed that I dust off now and then.

      Hugs,
      Ella

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  4. Love the pics Ella! I silky things and lace...and Rick definitely appreciates it :)

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Thanks, Roz. Glad you liked the pictures.

      I was thinking about how many men seem to enjoy lingerie, but how I would never want Sam to wear anything like those ridiculous thong underwear for men. Yechh! The sexiest thing a man can wear is a well-fitted suit. Suspenders always do it for me, too.

      Hugs,
      Ella

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  5. E,
    I do love my lingerie. Glad you are with me.
    Meredith

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    1. Meredith, I love when you visit.

      Once when I was in Vegas, I went into both a La Perla and an Agent Provocateur. I did not try on anything. I knew the prices were way out of my league, but it was fun to just touch such beautiful things.

      Ella

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  6. I also have a shoe addiction Ella...have promised Ami that I would share some pics one of these days...need to get that done. ;) As far as lingerie...I enjoy looking at it and dreaming about it but never seem to find anything I look good in. Happy you have found lovely pieces you and Sam enjoy.

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

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  7. OMG, Cat. We need to form a support group - Shoes Anonymous. Hi, my name is Ella and I am a shoe-oholic.

    Hugs,
    Ella

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  8. I am another avid collector of lingerie, but have only gone so far as to try on numerous corsets to date. Never actually bought one as they are all very expensive around here, and I am worried that I might never breathe again if I wear one. But I did take Burlesque dancing lessons at one point and was very envious of those women who dared to wear them. The women were all shapes and sizes and all looked terrific!

    I don't like thongs/strings/cheese wires! Much prefer very high legs that 'frame a bottom' with beautiful lace. Sadly my bottom is not what it once was.... LOL!

    Think I must be the only woman around here who never dresses up in sexy underwear for her husband only to find it on the floor! I must be missing something along the line. But perhaps it is because I try to wear sexy underwear all the time like the Italian women. Started to do it around five years' ago, and Dan knows I am not feeling well now if ever he sees me in 'plain cotton'. LOL!

    I also love bras with pre-formed cups. When you have boobs like mine that you have to gather up and herd into place, you understand these things! (Giggling fit to kill!)

    Loved your post, Ella. Just don't get me started on shoes! They are my fast-track to a spanking!

    Hugs
    Ami

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    1. Ami,

      Must hear about the Burlesque dancing lessons! You always like to portray yourself as the Martha Stewart of the group, but I am thinking "Still waters run deep!"

      Speaking of herding the udders, if I ever added foam to these girls, nothing I have would fit. For everyday wear I usually opt for a minimizer bra. Try to find pretty ones, but it has to have the function of bridge girders.

      Someday, Little Ami, we are going shoe shopping together, and it will be a date with destiny.

      Hugs Across the Pond,
      Ella

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  9. such a fun post :-)
    I have a little collection a lace black underwear and bras, and stockings and garters which my husband loves to see me in, and a pretty nightgown...no shoes, however. well, of course I have some...but would much rather be barefoot. Hugs

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  10. Hello Terps!

    Black lace lingerie is just like a little black dress. Nothing looks quite so classy. Stick with the garter belts; they are a lot easier than the corsets. I still have trouble with those little clips though, when you try to fasten the stockings. As I said I swear a lot when getting the whole kit on.

    Just like spanking, I think one is either a shoe person or not. Mmmmm? What pair do I want to wear today?

    Hugs,
    Ella

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  11. I do love lingerie! Unfortunately being rather well endowed I tend to need support! I often wear Spanx too! Lol. Many a funny time 'slipping' out of those!
    I love boots but rarely buy too many...
    However you should see my collection of spanx! ;-)

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    1. Exactly, Minelle! We talk a lot about the support of a good friend, but a good bra is the same way. If it doesn't perform, then being pretty just isn't going to matter.

      I have always wanted to donate a cup size to each of my sisters. Being well endowed is not always a blessing. However, I am betting that your Scotsman loves you just the way you are!

      Hugs from Ella

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  12. Hi Ella, you have some lovely things. I lost heaps of weight last year so shouted myself to nice matching lingerie. To my surprise it doesn't do anything for Bear. When I said something to him about it that he doesn't bother looking at me when I'm wearing it. His reply was I see it when its on the clothes line. MEN! He amazes me with that one.
    Glad both you and Sam enjoy it though.
    Lindy x

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  13. Hi to you, Lindy. It is lots of fun to shop when you feel slimmer. I think Ami is right about how it feels wonderful just to wear pretty things under your clothes. No one may admire it, but it can change the way you feel about yourself.

    Sam may enjoy it for a little while, but it does always end up on the floor!

    Ella

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