Have never been a person that makes New Year's resolutions. Before ttwd, I would have been embarrassed at reneging on my pledge by the end of January. After ttwd I knew that if I really wanted to change something about myself, all I had to do was ask for Sam's help. He would be there for me whether it was May, September, or December. And even if I decided to throw my goal out the window, Sam would be around to gently or not so gently remind me of our agreement.
The months leading up to January, 2019, had been both busy and full of angst. We had the flood disaster the night before we left for London and France, and the mess and repairs took a full 4 months. No ceilings and no floors in over half the house. But the trip overseas was probably the best ever vacation for the two of us. I was feeling healthy, and we did and saw everything we had missed for 2 years running. Very special memories.
|Artist rendition of glider landing at Pegasus Bridge|
When we returned, we dealt with the water damage in the house and prepared for Sam's big surgery. I wrote about that recently. There was so much for us to discuss, so much more that just the diagnosis and the surgery. The surgery carried with it some heavy emotional repercussions, and more than once, both of us cried and clung to each other. Again, I will never know how to properly thank the blog friends who opened up to us about their journey with this diagnosis and surgery. What amazing people.
The holidays were different this year. Sam insisted that we were cutting back and taking a minimalist approach. Not allowing me to stress myself out.
While ttwd never disappeared, it never got the attention we usually pay to keeping it strong and positive. There just wasn't time with all that happened. Once we were past all the demands, Sam and I breathed a big sigh and felt like we finally could spend time just on each other. When we began to talk about where we were a bit stale. Not on our game, as they say. We talked about it often. We touched and smiled and laughed.
Finally Sam sat on the bed and pulled me across his knee. He would spank for a while, but it was not about something I did or did not do. It was not a "just because I love you" spanking either. It wasn't funny and we were not laughing. It was meant to reconnect and renew us as we faced the new year.
Sam would pause, and we would talk - about who we are now - how we've both changed. How we are the same. What should we remember about our respective roles?
It was a wonderful way to start the year. The bond felt strong again. In fact, I hope we do this every January.
So Slappy New Year, friends and readers.
Hope 2019 gives you all the love and spankings you deserve.